Big news, people…big development. 

I finally met The Secret Man.   Bear in mind him? “D”, the man who was so perfect behind his monitor, but would constantly terminate on dates and was too hectic to produce strategies? Though the probability of an enchanting spark faded along time before, we have now continued to remain friendly via Twitter and Facebook, using periodic text message or cellphone talk cast set for great measure.  I’d just about entirely resigned to the fact that I would personally never ever fulfill my personal “friend” in real world.

Until I did.

I realized I happened to be will be in his neck from the forests for a-work conference, and casually discussed it to him in a text.  We expected the usual-excitement, passion to produce ideas, and the standard “extremely sorry, i will be therefore active nowadays i cannot succeed” excuse 10 minutes before he was expected to show up.  I didn’t watch for him to order my coffee, and conducted my phone-in my personal hand expecting his cancellation text.  It don’t arrive.  As an alternative, as I looked at my phone it said “Just kept work. Be here in ten.”

I became floored.

I happened to ben’t nervous-as We stated in my own finally blog post from the puzzle man topic, one just who takes 3 years to get something accomplished isn’t popular with me at all.  I happened to be thrilled to meet him though, finally…after talking to some one practically for way too long, We felt like I realized him-when the truth is, I knew nothing about him at all. There clearly was in addition a sense of reduction that I could eventually close the entranceway on the whole “mystery man” thing-I considered D a buddy, also it can end up being hard whenever a friend don’t supply you with the time, virtually.

When he showed up, it had been similar to seeing an old buddy for the first time in a while.  There is no awkwardness, or basic day jitters-while it was most definitely NOT a romantic date, first meetings are often somewhat nerve-wracking.  We right away decrease into an amiable talk, and that I told him about my brand-new work, my personal date and listened as he loaded myself in on his gf and amazing apartment he would gone to live in. At long last requested him precisely why in the world he hadn’t satisfied me personally earlier, and exactly why, if he didn’t like to meet a lady, was the guy online dating to begin with?

“i needed to” the guy mentioned.  “I wanted to get my self available and meet brand-new girls as if you.  But I became so in love with my companion, I decided it was an inappropriate action to take.  I happened to be frightened i’d fulfill you, because We understood I would most likely end damaging you.”

We trusted their response.  With his brand-new gf? She’s the greatest pal he was so crazy about, therefore it all exercised.

This whole fiasco with D has reminded that actually online, people should-be given the advantageous asset of the doubt.  It’s not hard to write off guys just who behave like D as “players” and so on, while in reality, he had been simply looking for their means. It’s easy to mark people as good and bad, but in truth, there is a whole lot of gray region.

Kumbaya and hugs all around, kiddos.